The two-sex writer "Big A" has been married to the travel writer "Blue White Tuo" for 6 years and has one son "Incense". The combination of writers and writers has aroused the most sensitive nerve in marriage. How can we play the concerto without stopping the war? The answer lies in the children. This existence tells parents: marriage is not romantic, it is very real.

I have known Da A and Blue White Dang for less than a year. They have married later. The two have no honeymoon and no running-in period. They live together immediately and immediately jump to the pregnancy stage. Then the child was born, and immediately the bloody ground was blown to the crying sound of the baby waking up late at night, and the sound of the breasts being squeezed, and the sound of the breasts being pulled out without any need to be aloof! The marriage and childbirth are all the money

"I was frank and caught off guard during the process. I immediately entered the lifestyle. It was really messy and frustrating in the early stages of childbirth." To Da A, feeding breast milk and caring for the child, it was almost time to get to the end of the day, but I realized that I had not washed my face at all. After being a mother, I felt that my body that had lived for more than 30 years was not the figure of a woman at all, but more like a "mother" that provided breast milk.

At that time, there were two writers, three bedrooms and two halls, no one wrote the script in the book room, and no one cooked in the kitchen. Usually only the lights in the main room are brightly lit, and the sound of opening is still heard at night. The couple are raising children in one world and cannot leave the room at all.

After a few months later, Big A could not stand it and suggested that he could take the child to his nanny, but the husband thought it was okay and he would take it. "But when the child cried, I couldn't stand it. I wanted to coax him, but the blue-white drag could continue to write the manuscript." She thought to herself, "Didn't you tell me you would take it?" Why can he still write the manuscript when the child cried, so she had to coax the child? He said with great disgust, "Okay, only you are talented. Your writing is important, but I write is not important?"

Big A admitted, "No need to be aloof, the marriage card must be related to money!" In response to the matter of asking the nanny, she wanted to ask the nanny, but if the blue white is to save money, the two sides would continue to fight.

The two people have no common understanding of the family organization. Big A often has no energy to organize his home. She wants to ask Auntie Shou to help, but Blue White Drag does not need it. He just comes to Shou, but the two health standards are different. In the end, no matter what the husband said, he insists on paying, saying, "I am here to write the manuscript, not to pick your teeth!" Interestingly, after being hit by Auntie Shou, Blue White Drag finally admits, "Well, there is a difference." The two agree that they can pay together in the future.

Da A has also learned a lesson in the past few years: "Basically, if you can solve it with money, just use money to solve it!" Otherwise, quarrel over money and reduce the quality of your marriage.

Say it is good to travel with children. After he went to

with a child, Big A believed that traveling must be accompanied by children, but blue-white dragging it to long for a trip. At the age of 2 years old, Blue White was unauthorized to accept a travel invitation to a country, which made her feel disrespectful. He said, "I am writing a trip. If I don't travel, how can I write something?" Big A asked, "I'm writing love, can't I go for an affair?"

Finally, Blue White went there without paying attention to everything. In New Zealand, she was left alone to treat her children at home. Even if he made private messages and photos every day, Big A didn't want to pay much attention to him. He reported the relationship at home every day, and even wanted to secretly change the locks so that he couldn't get into the home.

Although she came to Da A to have a family with her friends, this incident made the two fight for a long time. It was not until later that she accepted the invitation to go to Guan Island with her sisters and play high-altitude jumping and other activities that she realized that she could still be so energetic and crazy, not always tired. This trip completely released her soul.

At this time, I finally understood why Blue White needs a personal trip so that my heart can truly reconcile with him. "He wants to travel alone, and he will support me in travel alone, and he doesn't care about things he doesn't care about, nor will he ask me for it." To be honest, she can be very comfortable and comfortable with him like this.

Children are the victims of marriage. First, I received the love at the insurance cabinet

Da A, said: "Marriage allows two people to approach from two parallel lines. During the process, there are several things in their hearts that they care about. I didn't know before, so they won't misunderstand each other."

At the beginning, they all separated each other. You and I did not realize it was "we", so there was the idea of "just you are writing the manuscript, so what should I do?" At that time, I did not realize that marriage should be "teammates" and not "opponents". The responsibility for tutoring should be divided and flowed, rather than fighting against each other.

For example: Big A is writing a new book, and Blue White Drag will take the initiative to take care of the child. "Whoever is uncomfortable, another person will take care of the child. The two are teammates, and the score is the child. Working together will not become each other's subsequent concerns." Now that the gentleman wants someone, Big A will no longer blame or complain, so that he can rest assured that he has his own time.

First, the killer. But the child will eventually become a temperature booster

When mother and wife were mothers, Big A confirmed that the child is the tomb of love and the killer of marriage. However, after several years of marriage, he will explain it. "I think the child is more like the insurance cabinet of love. It is equivalent to putting our love in the insurance cabinet first, just like putting the wedding ring in the insurance cabinet first, because I can't use it at a time, so I put it next to me. After several years of the child going to school, I slowly have my own time, and then go to the insurance cabinet to bring up the love.. ”

"When he was the killer, he would add a temperature device," said A. A., once she was so angry that she didn't want to drag her together with the blue white again, but the incense suddenly became hot, so she could only let go of her feelings at once. Under the premise that the child was first, the two of them quickly took him to the hospital. After focusing on taking care of the child, the point of vitality disappeared without knowing it. When he was discharged from the hospital, the point of concern seemed to be less important.

"Although the child was hospitalized, the two of them had such fatigue and confusion, when they recalled it, it was the revolutionary emotion we walked together." She described that marriage was like a trek, and the process was very hard and difficult. After walking together, you will see different scenery.

If it weren't for having children, she wouldn't have changed so much. The revolutionary emotions in the process, no one in the world except for Mr., is exactly the same as your experience. Big A said: "Love in marriage may not be romantic, it is very real." Don't miss the love of having children here.

Advisory inquiry and picture provided/Dual-sex writer A

※