The Chinese New Year is the most likely day to have problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. How to resolve conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a question from the University! When problems arise between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it should not be handled separately by the daughter-in-law, but the husband must stand up and the couple will discuss how to solve it.

Men who are stuck between their wife and mother often escape because they don’t know what to do! Liang Shujuan, associate professor of the Department of Psychological Guidance at the Cultural University and psychologist at the Chinese Psychological Treatment Research and Development Foundation, pointed out that the teacher should not let his partner follow his boss alone, but should stand up and be a bridge for both parties to communicate at the right time.

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When there is a conflict with my mother-in-law, how can I be a bridge that makes my husband more proactive in intervening in the communication without running away if he wants to pull out his legs, because he doesn't want to escape because he doesn't want to be slacking off? Liang Shujuan psychologist pointed out that he can explain to the husband that he can help communicate, and that the mother-in-law is easier to accept, and uses "not wanting to have a bad relationship with the mother-in-law" and "a good family atmosphere, better for the children", etc., but it is not recommended to criticize the mother-in-law directly in front of her husband, which will cause dissatisfaction with the mother-in-law. Otherwise, the husband may feel more difficult, or feel hurt and angry and want to escape, and even cause many conflicts between husband and wife.

It will be easier for the husband to communicate with his mother-in-law, because the husband will naturally know his mother better than his wife, so some words can be said to his mother-in-law directly. "No matter whether you talk good or bad things, my son said that my mother-in-law is less likely to reconcile, and the problem is easy to resolve, but it is easily conveyed by my daughter-in-law, which makes my mother-in-law feel rejected, denied, and looked down upon."

1. The husband should not speak directly and said Liang Shujuan to psychologist reminded that it is worth noting that when the husband communicates with his mother-in-law, he should remember to pay attention to the way of expression, like If the wife feels angry and wronged because she has different views from her mother-in-law, she complains and gets angry with her husband in private, her husband should never convey these words to her mother intact, such as saying, "Mom, you will get angry if you are a wife." Liang Shujuan psychologist said that this will not only not only fail to resolve the problem, but may also lead to a conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, when expressing, the teacher should be more careful in practicing the sentences and try to communicate with his mother-in-law in a more connected way.

2. The husband communicates with his mother-in-law with his "self" position. In addition, the husband does not recommend that he express himself to support the other party in front of the other side. For example, he told his wife, "You know that my mother is like this, just let it go." Doing this will often only make the wife more angry and difficult, and feel that she is not supported and understood by the husband.

Psychologist Liang Shujuan reminded that when the husband was communicating with his mother-in-law, he suggested that he hoped that his mother-in-law would cooperate with what he wanted, rather than mentioning "wives say, wife thinks ……" to avoid letting the mother-in-law have ant enemies with his daughter-in-law. For example, when the mother-in-law wants to take care of the child, but the wife wants to ask the nanny to take care of the child, the husband should try to avoid being like being echoed by one party and put forward other views from a third party perspective, such as expressing that he does not want his mother to be too tired because of taking care of the child, and wants her to enjoy the joy of having fun with her. When the gentleman takes the initiative to intervene and puts forward different angles and views on things that both parties care about, it can help reduce the chance of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!

Understand the psychology of mother-in-law and rationally resolve conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

When you can understand the causes and psychological conditions behind some of the behaviors of mother-in-law, you can better prescribe medicine and open the bridge of communication. Because the mother-in-law has more life experience, she hopes to be respected and can make some contributions. Therefore, sometimes she will have thoughts such as "being good for the child" and "helping" and "helping" and will definitely remind her daughter-in-law what to do and cross the boundaries, making her feel troubled. When you understand the psychology of your mother-in-law better, you can change your mood and resolve conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a more rational way.

Chat with sisters, complain about their hardships, and express pressure

If you feel bad because of different views and friction with your mother-in-law, what should you do? Psychologist Liang Shujuan pointed out that you might as well chat with friends with the same experience and discuss mothers, etc. "When daughters-in-law of the same generation are often associated with their mother-in-law, they will most likely have similar experiences and difficulties."

When chatting with friends, you can also discuss solutions to communicate with your mother-in-law, as well as ejaculation of your grievances and unhappiness. Sometimes, chatting with good friends can also get some troubles. I feel that "it turns out that I am not the only one who encounters this, but I am not alone." Because I feel that I am understood and the same is true, I can be adapted.